Let's keep it one hundred, can we? I mean really keep it true. Now I may catch hell about this later, but I just felt it was time to correct a misunderstanding I hear from woman frustrated with the dating situation.
It always seem to come out during a social gathering of men and women, a woman will say, "Men have it easier then women. There are so many more women to men in the city. They have their pick."... oh here we go. Naturally a man in the group will deny the statement. Well... NOT ME! I completely agree with the sistas, fellas we got it good. We get our pick.
That's right its the truth, and we are obligated to deny just how good we got it. I mean yeah we got it good out here. We can walk into any scene and come out on top, just in the number of women. Hell yeah, that's what I'm talking about. Women of all shapes, sizes, styles, and flavors. Tall ones, thick ones, pretty ones. Light skinned, dark skinned, long hair, short hair, straight, nappy, big whateva, donkey sized, etc. We got it made. That is if we are in the mood for something temporary, unfulfilled, and shallow. In that case, we are living the good life.
However, there are those brothers among us that are looking for something special and solid. Someone we can give our first, and save our last to. Someone we can love and trust with our best and our worst. Someone for whom we could paint her grey sky blue, someone to whom we will always be true. Yeah, I'm talking about a brother who wants a life with a wife. It's a completely different story for that brotha. When that brother steps into the room, he has something completely different. Maybe of the ten women he could choose, he has to find that special someone.
Believe it or not he has his hands full trying to avoid, the women with no goals or ambition in their lives. They merely exist for the reason of existing. Wanting and waiting for what the good life has to give them and doing nothing to change their situation other than find that man who is willing to give it to her. Maybe not so much a problem... if you're the type of guy wanting women to keep, but there aren't many men out there that just want a pet. Well right off the top, that takes out three women of the ten he can call worth his time.
Now it doesn't get any easier for a brotha at this point, he now has to invest a little more time to get to know a few of the seven to realize they are not worth his time. I'm talking about that particular sista, that can't see this brotha beyond, the clothes he wears, the car he drives, or the job he has. Oh don't get me wrong she's doing really well for herself, however she wants a brotha to come to the table with better than she brought. She really not looking to be loved, there's no status in being loved. Right there we can write off two of the ten women he encounters for that day. Leaving him with only four that he would possibly stop everything in his world to make happy.
The odds are still looking pretty good for a brotha until you add baggage. Did you really think we were not going to add baggage? You can't leave that out! You can take two off of the four for the unresolved baggage, and drama that will follow. You usually can tell these women up front, they're quick to tell you what they will and won't put up with. Tell you how brothas will always cheat and they can always give you the latest ... "how bad it really is for a sista out here," story.
Leaving him with the two women that will likely ever cross his life time if he's lucky. Lucky that is as to not have gotten caught up with the wrong woman, given up on finding a good woman, or ventures off to other pastures (which is even harder than were he's at now).
Ladies, let me be the one to give up the game on this one. Just as difficult as it is to find a good man, it is just as difficult to find a good woman. Oh... I'm not going to lie, it's good to have a large quantity to choose but then you won't be looking for quality it's just too much. So be assured my sistas, a quality woman will always win out over quantity. So Ignore the numbers, keep you style fresh and you business tight, and you will stand out among hundreds.