It’s wrong I tell you, just plain wrong to get hit with “the talk” when you least expect it at the most inopportune time. You know “the talk”, that conversation that requires your full attention and time to come to a resolution. It’s the conversation you start with a deep sigh and a thought to your self, “This is really not the time for this”.
While working with couples I encourage them find a time that best suits both of them to address sensitive issues, and to avoid inopportune timing or situations. Thus, their partner maybe more open to their message. These are just a few suggestions.
- Try to avoid starting “the talk”, when there are time limitations. Fifteen minutes before you have to go to work has to be one of the worst.
- If either partner is sleepy, hungry, intoxicated, late at night or tired. Both partners should be physically at their best.
- Avoid public gatherings, in front of children or family events. The topic will eventually be about the embarrassment on partner feels, rather than the issue at hand.
- Texting the “the talk”, is a major taboo. It invites misunderstanding, and limits the ability for clarification. I suppose that’s why you’re limited only 65 characters per text.
I’m sure you can share a few of your own experiences about getting caught with “the talk” from a partner.
